Part III of III
For eleven years now, I've been a wife. For ten, I've been a mother. And for three, I've been a home school mom. In the grand scheme of life, that's not really that long. But I'm still proud of these years. Marriage is hard. Motherhood is hard. Homeschooling is hard. Anyone that tells you differently hasn't actually done the job. They're also journeys....long, arduous, adventurous journeys, full of highs and lows. It's a difficult task, trying to find a route that takes you down all three roads at the same time. Often, I find my 'marriage path' diverging from the 'motherhood & homeschooling paths.'
My previous two posts were about working toward bringing those paths back together. If you've begun to act on those steps, then you're ready for today's grand finale. It's not going to be anything that's a big surprise. However, if you haven't been working on the roots, I'm going to ask you to hold off on this step. Sure, you could jump start the car, but how long is it going to work if you don't take it to the mechanic for a tune-up? You can't jump start it every time...
Alright ladies, so we're wearing all those caps I mentioned. We're juggling cooking, shopping, cleaning, laundry, teaching, discipline, and a million other little tasks that add up to a lot of busy-work. It's hard to switch gears from business-mode to intimacy-mode, but one of your jobs (oh yeah, I just used the word "job" there) is to have sex with your husband.
File it under "treat," "job," "fun time," "duty," or whatever else you want to label it. Personally, my label for the day depends on a number of external and internal factors. Whatever your mood, get in the mood! The more sex you have, the better everything will be. Do not underestimate the value of maintaining intimacy in your marriage. As an added bonus, a happy husband makes for a happy home. It's just like "when mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy," ...make that daddy.
What's important here is that you put some effort into visually pleasing him. Get him excited! Mean appreciate when their wives put forth that effort. And you know what? If you've been hanging out in yoga pants, with your hair in a ponytail and no make-up, he's going to love it all that much more. Heavens - he might even begin to engage in CHORE-PLAY! Hoo-rah!
Today's to-do list :
- Shave. I don't care how cold it is, or how long it will be until you wear shorts again. Go shave.
- Comb your hair. Take it out of that ponytail / bun / braid and fluff it out. What's the point of having beautiful hair if you can't show it off? Let your hair down!
- Find something to wear to bed. Yes, fuzzy socks, sweatpants, and t-shirts are comfortable. But wouldn't you rather replace the television as the object of your husband's attention?? Actually, better yet, go to bed naked. If you're cold, invest in some warm, cozy sheets.
- Add something R or X rated your trousseau. Lace is always a good bet. Heck, ask him to pick something out for you. Go slip into something a little less comfortable. It's not like you're going to be wearing it very long anyway...